What’s the secret sauce to building a love that lasts and keeps getting better?
Dr. Julia Colwell, renowned psychologist, relationship coach, and author, believes that while love, passion, and commitment are vital, the key to lasting connection lies in mastering foundational relationship skills.
In this special presentation, recorded live at Tony and Sage Robbins’ 2017 Platinum Partners Relationship Event, Dr. Colwell shares her decades of experience helping individuals and couples transform emotional challenges into opportunities for deeper intimacy, trust, and growth. As the founder of the Boulder Center for Conscious Community and author of acclaimed works such as The Relationship Skills Workbook and The Relationship Ride, Dr. Colwell offers transformative tools and strategies for navigating the most common struggles couples face.
Dr. Colwell explains how to disarm conflicts and replace arguments with meaningful connection, escape power struggles by fostering mutual support, and let go of blame to create trust and lasting solutions. She reveals how couples can balance personal growth with a commitment to their partner’s happiness and reignite the love and passion that keep relationships alive and thriving. With her guidance, even the most challenging moments can become opportunities to deepen intimacy and build a conscious, cooperative partnership.
Tony and Sage are thrilled to present this transformative session with Dr. Julia Colwell. Let her wisdom and expertise inspire you to create the extraordinary relationship you deserve. Please enjoy!
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TIMECODE:
00:00:00 Intro
00:00:25 Tony’s Intro
00:04:30 “If it’s happening in my body, you can’t argue with me.”
00:05:15 Sensations: Where our awareness meets our body
00:10:55 How to consciously regulate your molecular structure
00:16:20 The negatives of being in a “reactive brain” state
00:19:25 How our emotional states contract and expand
00:23:55 The 5 Primary Emotions
00:25:55 Reactive brain and the ego
00:33:55 Debunking the myth: Women are the emotional sex
00:37:25 Reactive brain vs. creative brain
00:41:25 Tantrum break
00:44:25 The importance of feeling sadness
00:46:25 Freakout break
00:49:25 Alternatives to arguing in conflict situations
00:52:25 “75% of humans stay in reactive brain all the time.”
00:56:40 Understanding the Drama Triangle
01:00:40 Audience member “stuck” in the Drama Triangle
01:10:25 Audience Q&A: Heated topics and tools to diffuse them
01:12:35 Audience Q&A: What a partner can say to signal they’re in reactive brain
01:14:47 Audience Q&A: Balancing positivity and negativity in emotions
01:18:15 Audience Q&A: Insights on navigating the Drama Triangle
01:22:31 The Big Gulp Strategy
01:23:15 Sign-off
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Tony Robbins is a #1 New York Times best-selling author, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and the nation’s #1 Life and Business Strategist. For more than four and a half decades, more than 100 million people from 195 countries have enjoyed the warmth, humor, and transformational power of his business and personal development events.
Mr. Robbins is the author of seven internationally bestselling books, including three #1 New York Times bestsellers: Money: Master the Game, Unshakeable, and Life Force. He created the #1 personal and professional development program of all time, and more than 10 million people have attended his live seminars.
Anthony Robbins is the chairman of a holding company comprising more than 110 privately held businesses with combined sales exceeding $7 billion a year. He has been named in the top 50 of Worth Magazine’s 100 most powerful people in global finance for three consecutive years, honored by Accenture as one of the “Top 50 Business Intellectuals in the World”; by Harvard Business Press as one of the “Top 200 Business Gurus”; and by American Express as one of the “Top Six Business Leaders in the World” to coach its entrepreneurial clients. Fortune’s recent cover article named him the “CEO Whisperer.
